There’s a saying that I have discovered to be true over and over again in my life:
“Birds of a feather flock together.”
People of like minds will congregate.
Sometimes, we don’t realize exactly what we have in common with the people we tend to spend the majority of time with but do have elements that draws us together.
That’s true for all of us who dedicate ourselves to the structured, disciplined, and challenging fitness lifestyle too.
If you are a fitness leader among your followers, you have a responsibility to your followers.
That includes you even if you only have two or three people who follow your because of your passion and knowledge for fitness.
If you choose to follow someone because they provide you with awesome fitness information and inspiration, you have to be careful of how you might be influenced in other ways too.
Many hardcore fitness coaches and experts will openly admit that trusting other people isn’t something that comes easily to them.
It’s a very common narrative within our fitness industry.
They’ve found comfort in the fitness lifestyle.
Maybe you have too.
Many times, those fitness leaders and experts are also the same people who tell you not to trust other fitness leaders and experts and, in many cases, the government, businesses, and other people in general.
A person’s life experiences shape their beliefs and view-of-the-world whether they realize it yet or not.
Your own life experiences which have shaped your beliefs and view-of-the-world may perfectly match what you are constantly bombarded with within the social media fitness circles.
Be careful of the advice that you choose to follow.
Just because it’s a common belief within our fitness world doesn’t mean it’s necessarily true.
Just because you admire someone for their awesome physique, huge muscles, ripped abs, tight butt, superior knowledge of fitness, or their massive social media following doesn’t necessarily mean that their rules, opinions, beliefs, and view-of-the-world deserve the same amount of respect.
In many cases, they are challenged in life just like you.
If you follow certain people blindly, you could create unnecessary obstacles that get in the way of your own success and happiness, as well as, the people who admire you for your live fitness’ success and happiness.
Even though the “threat” to you may be very real to you, it’s not always necessarily so.
In life, you can’t help but attract people who are just like you.
There’s a saying that goes, “The shield that PROTECTS you from pain is oftentimes the same thing that BLOCKS you from the happiness in life that you really want.”
For some of us in the fitness world, our muscular bodies and the super-structured and disciplined lifestyle that it took to earn them have become our literal and figurative “shields” that protects us.
Some of us are very well aware that we have this challenge.
Some of us are absolutely clueless. Well, maybe just at this point in our lives.
I understand that many of us have been bullied, made to feel less-than, physically, emotionally, and/or sexually abused, abandoned, neglected, lied to, hurt, and let down. We’ve let ourselves down in the past.
And, although it may be hard for us to admit to ourselves, we’ve let people down in the past too.
I understand that the dedicated fitness can lifestyle can become the perfect escape from that “reality” and, in many cases, has saved our lives.
If you want you to become your very best both inside and outside of the gym.
I want you to become “More Than Just Muscles.”
To do that, you’ll need to continually work on your own personal growth.
You’ll have to ask yourself if the very same shield that may be protecting you from potential pain and disappointment is also unintentionally blocking all of the real success and happiness that you really want in your life.
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