A Mind That Is Stretched . . .


I was completely obsessed.

There’s no other word to describe it.

“What can I do at this very moment to become my very best on the competition stage in just six weeks?”

I remember those thoughts and that day as if it was yesterday. Yesterday? Hell. More like it was five minutes ago.

I had a 20-minute pocket of time open up before it was time to eat again. My morning weight training was done. My separate cardiovascular training session was completed too. I logged my workout and posted training shots for my members only website followers to see. Even though it was only 10:40 in the morning, I already ate six of my 11 daily, precisely-timed “feedings” for the day. My plane flight to New York City was booked and paid for. My hotel reservations were too. I even had my trip’s packing checklist done.

“There must be something I can do right now to make sure I win this show,” I thought to myself.

“I got it! I can throw some of my dirty workout clothes in the washer to get me ahead!”

I lived my life for months almost exclusively in workout clothes when I prepared for a contest. There were always some workout clothes that needed to be washed. I won’t mention that they needed to be folded and put away in my dresser drawers too. That was completely unnecessary, in my opinion. I’d either pull them out of the dryer or out one of the 10 laundry baskets I used when I needed them.

There was no better feeling in the world to me. I visualized me standing on stage looking my very best and holding the overall trophy over my head probably one hundred times a day.

That vision kept me focused. It kept me working hard. It forced me to always be resourceful and gritty. It kept me happy. It gave my life meaning. I felt in total control. It would silence the chatter that always seemed to be going on in my head. It cleared my mind of the uncertainty that was all around me. It helped me block out other people’s behavior and the events in my life that I didn’t have complete control over.

Those were the best feelings I had ever experienced.

I missed those days.

I missed those thoughts.

I missed that sense of certainty and control.

I missed that power I was able to create in my mind.

I missed that continual physical, mental, and emotional “game” that I “played” every single minute of the day.

There’s no better feeling. If you’ve competed in a bodybuilding, physique, or fitness competition, I’m sure you know exactly what I’m writing about.

I knew I had to duplicate those feelings in my regular life if I was ever going to be truly successful and happy.

Oliver Wendell Holmes, Jr once said, “A mind that is stretched by a new experience can never go back to its old dimensions.”

I realized that I could never go back to the way I used to think before I became obsessed with bodybuilding, training, and competing.

The challenge was to create a life with those same feelings with rewards that were much greater than a great body, admiration from other people, and the title and trophy.

Those rewards just weren’t going to be enough anymore if I was going to live the overall quality of life I really wanted.

Developing a step-by-step system to “Set Your Entire Life Up Like A Contest (And Win Big There Too!)” played a huge part in my MANformation. It literally changed my life. It changed my wife’s life. It has also changed the lives of my one-on-one coaching clients I’ve had the privilege to work with.

There’s no going back once your mind has been stretched.

I don’t even try anymore.

I take that stretched mind and make it work for a bigger payoff in life.

Skip La Cour
It’s A Matter Of Trust: Confessions of a Recovering Bodybuilder

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Skip La Cour

Skip La Cour is a coach, speaker, author, and entrepreneur. He is the creator of the MANformation Confidence and Leadership personal development program for men and was a six-time national champion drug-free bodybuilder. La Cour helps ambitious men understand and execute effective confidence, leadership, and influence skills so that they reach their biggest goals in life with more control, clarity, and focus. Feel free to email Skip at any time at [email protected] with your questions and comments. Or, call (213)973-8790.

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